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		<title>A synchronistic strategy for extending your beliefs.</title>
		<link>http://www.gameofself.com/blog/2009/08/29/a-synchronistic-strategy-for-extending-your-beliefs/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 29 Aug 2009 07:31:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[How I perceive the world is the result of what filters I have on experience in any given moment. As I understand it, the world is manifest from consciousness and consciousness is sustained by belief, because of this, I&#8217;ve discovered a new, profound respect for the power of belief. So if I am exploring a [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>How I perceive the world is the result of what filters I have on experience in any given moment.</p>
<p>As I understand it,  the world is manifest from consciousness and consciousness is sustained by belief,  because of this, I&#8217;ve discovered a new, profound respect for the power of belief.</p>
<p>So if I am exploring a practice which requires belief, the one sure way to <strong>not</strong> get results is to not believe&#8230;</p>
<p>I am very interested in exploring a variety of belief systems and their related practices.  As I discover more things which &#8220;work&#8221; I am becoming less dogmatic and more open, and ending up with a better understanding of how it all fits together.<br />
Coming from an engineering background,  I wanted to share my process with you:</p>
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<h2>&#8220;A synchronistic strategy for extending your beliefs&#8221;</h2>
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<p>1.  <strong>Find someone you respect and trust who holds an interesting set of beliefs. </strong> You can use referrals from friends you respect to help expand your circle of acquaintances.  Be especially aware of people who have gained prominence recently, &#8220;When the student is ready, the teacher will come&#8221;. </p>
<p>2. <strong>Discover a practice that they recommend</strong>, perhaps a retreat or a training or a ritual you can do every day.  </p>
<p>3.<strong> Do an ecology check</strong>:  For instance, if you adopt this practice, will it take too much money? ruin my body? harm my loved ones? or hurt the environment?  If so, abandon this practice and return to step #1</p>
<p>4. <strong>Decide how long you will do the practice</strong>.  See how it works before you become too committed.</p>
<p>5. Use an internal ritual to <strong>take all your existing beliefs, doubts and criticisms, and put them into a mental &#8220;safe deposit box&#8221; for future reference</strong>. Put the box away in a safe place.  Release the contents from your mind.</p>
<p>5. <strong>Model and adopt the beliefs of your friend </strong>as close as you can.  Have faith in what you are doing.</p>
<p>6. <strong>Practice the new practice</strong> for the time you specified</p>
<p>7. <strong>Examine the new set of beliefs and pick the ones which seemed to be most useful.</strong></p>
<p>8.<strong> restore your original beliefs</strong> from the &#8220;safe deposit box&#8221; then <strong>integrate the new useful beliefs</strong> into your system.</p>
<p>9. <strong>Observe how your perceptions have changed</strong>,  then go back to step #1 <img src='http://www.gameofself.com/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>My path to becoming an NLP Master Practitioner</title>
		<link>http://www.gameofself.com/blog/2009/06/17/norman-morse-nlp-master-practitioner-hypnotherapist/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 17 Jun 2009 07:59:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>dragon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I recently graduated from the NLP and Coaching Institute of California with a Master Practitioner in NLP certification. One thing I like to do occasionally for inspiration is to review journal entries from the past, just to see what has evolved and what has stayed the same. 2 years ago I really wanted to become [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I recently graduated from the <a href="http://www.nlpca.com">NLP and Coaching Institute of California</a> with a Master Practitioner in NLP certification.  </p>
<p>One thing I like to do occasionally for inspiration is to review journal entries from the past, just to see what has evolved and what has stayed the same.</p>
<p>2 years ago I really wanted to become an NLP practitioner, so I followed a process where I created a &#8220;well formed outcome&#8221; and &#8220;set my intent&#8221; to do that.  At the time I was just &#8220;playing&#8221; with an NLP process I was exploring,  but something had &#8220;clicked&#8221; and here I am, having accomplished my desire.</p>
<p>Like any large goal,  I broke this into steps.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s what I did:<br />
1. Learned Self Hypnosis,  did many guided meditations on improving my self image and self confidence.<br />
2. Since I&#8217;ve had a long commute (1 hr each way)  I also immersed myself in NLP and hypnosis audio trainings from many different instructors.<br />
3. I attended a <a href="http://www.tadjames.com">Tad James</a> 3 day Hypnosis Certification Course.<br />
4. I graduated from the <a href="http://www.british-hypnosis-research.com">British Hypnosis Research</a> online course in Ericksonian Hypnosis, this took over a year of participation in community forums, studying reference materials, and passing exams. I am indebted to Stephen Brooks for setting this course up, and for making it free!<br />
5. After a year or more of concentrated study of NLP, I felt I needed a lot more practical experience, so I spent the money to attend an NLP Certification training where I could work on real people <img src='http://www.gameofself.com/blog/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' />    I was picky about where to take my training and finally settled on the NLP and Coaching Institute of California, the training was a total of 27 days spread over 9 months.</li>
<p>So the real question is;  Where do I go from here?  I&#8217;ll discuss that soon in a future blog entry</p>
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		<title>Taoist Meditation by Bruce Frantzis</title>
		<link>http://www.gameofself.com/blog/2009/04/25/taoist-meditation-by-bruce-frantzis/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 26 Apr 2009 05:08:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Bruce Frantzis has produced an excellent introduction to taoist water meditation in the audio set TAO of Letting Go: Meditation For Modern Living . Water meditation has a lot to do with releasing things which are &#8220;stuck&#8221; in the body or the mind. Bruce has written a couple of books on this same subject: Relaxing [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Bruce Frantzis has produced an excellent introduction to taoist water meditation in the audio set <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1556437897?ie=UTF8&#038;tag=thgaofse-20&#038;linkCode=as2&#038;camp=1789&#038;creative=390957&#038;creativeASIN=1556437897">TAO of Letting Go: Meditation For Modern Living</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=thgaofse-20&#038;l=as2&#038;o=1&#038;a=1556437897" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" /><br />
. Water meditation has a lot to do with releasing things which are &#8220;stuck&#8221; in the body or the mind.  Bruce has written a couple of books on this same subject:  <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1556434073?ie=UTF8&#038;tag=thgaofse-20&#038;linkCode=as2&#038;camp=1789&#038;creative=390957&#038;creativeASIN=1556434073">Relaxing into Your Being: The Water Method of Taoist Meditation, Vol. 1</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=thgaofse-20&#038;l=as2&#038;o=1&#038;a=1556434073" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" /><br />
 and <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1556434081?ie=UTF8&#038;tag=thgaofse-20&#038;linkCode=as2&#038;camp=1789&#038;creative=390957&#038;creativeASIN=1556434081">The Great Stillness: The Water Method of Taoist Meditation, Vol. 2</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=thgaofse-20&#038;l=as2&#038;o=1&#038;a=1556434081" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" />.</p>
<p>Another Frantzis resource is the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1556437889?ie=UTF8&#038;tag=thgaofse-20&#038;linkCode=as2&#038;camp=1789&#038;creative=390957&#038;creativeASIN=1556437889">Ancient Songs of the TAO: Music of the Spheres</a><img src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=thgaofse-20&#038;l=as2&#038;o=1&#038;a=1556437889" width="1" height="1" border="0" alt="" style="border:none !important; margin:0px !important;" /><br />
  which are ancient taoist liturgies which Bruce himself sings.<br />
He actually has different songs for different parts of the body and different types of emotion.<br />
I find it an unusually trancey experience where I can feel parts of my body resonating with his &#8220;overtone&#8221; singing.<br />
I really enjoy getting into a nice open state while playing one of these songs while doing an afternoon round of tai-chi.</p>
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		<title>NLP Practitioner Training</title>
		<link>http://www.gameofself.com/blog/2009/03/26/nlp-practitioner-training/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Mar 2009 06:09:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>dragon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It has been a long while since I posted. I found myself drawn away from my blog by a myriad array of self-development practices. For almost 2 years I have wanted to take NLP practitioner training. I had studied many, many audio tapes and books, but I really wanted the experience of practicing with willing [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It has been a long while since I posted.  I found myself drawn away from my blog by a myriad array of self-development practices.</p>
<p>For almost 2 years I have wanted to take NLP practitioner training.  I had studied many, many audio tapes and books, but I really wanted the experience of practicing with willing partners.</p>
<p>So last October I started an <strong>NLP Practitioner Training </strong>with <a href="http://nlpca.com">nlpca.com</a>,  Tim Hallbom was my primary instructor.  After 6 months of one 3 day weekend every month, I finally have my NLP practitioner certificate.  </p>
<p>Some of the benefits I got from the program include:</p>
<p>1.  I have an effective model of subjective experience.  With a willing, open minded subject I can now catalyze major shifts in peoples perceptions, habits and illnesses.  I didn&#8217;t really expect to be able to improve my powers of keen observation and subtle suggestion as effectively as I did.</p>
<p>2.  I am much more aware of subtle modes of communication.  This has changed my tai-chi,  I now feel my Qi more strongly and directly.  Best of all, my push hands is more sensitive, rooted, powerful and subtle.</p>
<p>3.  I understand what motivates me in major areas of my life, and how to change them.</p>
<p>4.  I now have a personal vision of building transformational communities online.</p>
<p>5.  I have built really strong bonds with my class mates,  I care about them in a ways which were totally unexpected for me.</p>
<p>5.  I feel like my life has shifted in a fundamental way.  My opportunities are limitless, my motivation is renewed, I feel centered and happy for most of every day.</p>
<p>Next Steps?  I will be continuing with my Master Practitioner Training,  3 more months where we will focus on re-imprinting, language patterns and other advanced topics.</p>
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		<title>Great NLP related podcasts</title>
		<link>http://www.gameofself.com/blog/2008/06/16/great-nlp-related-podcasts/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Jun 2008 19:37:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>dragon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I&#8217;ve been having a great time listening to some NLP related podcasts. Check out Renee Stephens &#8220;Inside Out Weight Loss&#8221; for some tasty NLP morsels. Or improve your coaching skill with &#8220;Coaching the Life Coach&#8221; by Robert Harrison. Finally, i recommend the &#8220;Radical Change Group&#8221; a trio of enthusiastic seekers who seem to be well [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;ve been having a great time listening to some NLP related podcasts.</p>
<p>Check out Renee Stephens <a href="http://renee.personallifemedia.com">&#8220;Inside Out Weight Loss&#8221; </a>for some tasty NLP morsels.</p>
<p>Or improve your coaching skill with <a href="http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/231-coaching-the-life-coach">&#8220;Coaching the Life Coach&#8221;</a> by Robert Harrison.</p>
<p>Finally, i recommend the <a href="http://www.radicalchangegroup.com/blog/">&#8220;Radical Change Group&#8221; </a> a trio of enthusiastic seekers who seem to be well versed in using NLP in a variety of situations.</p>
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		<title>A world class, online hypnosis course for free!</title>
		<link>http://www.gameofself.com/blog/2008/04/06/a-world-class-online-hypnosis-course-for-free/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:15:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[British Hypnosis Research is a well respected organization led by the famed British Hypnotist, Stephen Brooks. BHR has hosted an online course in &#8220;indirect hypnosis, Ericksonian hypnosis and NLP&#8221; for several years. They have recently made admission free for anyone seriously interested in studying these topics. I&#8217;ve been enrolled for a couple of weeks now, [...]]]></description>
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<a href="http://www.british-hypnosis-research.com">British Hypnosis Research</a> is a well respected organization led by the famed British Hypnotist, Stephen Brooks.  BHR has hosted an online course in &#8220;indirect hypnosis, Ericksonian hypnosis and NLP&#8221; for several years.   They have recently made admission free for anyone seriously interested in studying these topics.  </p>
<p>I&#8217;ve been enrolled for a couple of weeks now, and it is fascinating!  I am building relationships with a cadre of like minded students from around the world.  If you are seriously interested in learning about hypnosis you need to check this out!</p>
<p>To find out more, go to <a href="http://www.british-hypnosis-research.com">British Hypnosis Research</a></p>
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		<title>Hope for Immortality?</title>
		<link>http://www.gameofself.com/blog/2008/02/24/hope-for-immortality/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 24 Feb 2008 21:13:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[â€œ15 years from now, weâ€™ll be adding more than a year every year, not just to infant life expectancy, but to your remaining life expectancy, so as you go forward a year, your remaining life expectancy will move away from youâ€¦ The sands of time will be running in, not out.â€ Ray Kurzweil, in his [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p>â€œ15 years from now, weâ€™ll be adding more than a year every year, not just to infant life expectancy, but to your remaining life expectancy, so as you go forward a year, your remaining life expectancy will move away from youâ€¦ The sands of time will be running in, not out.â€</p></blockquote>
<p><strong>Ray Kurzweil</strong>, in his keynote speech at GDC 2008 last week, is predicting that <strong>if we live to 2023</strong>, then <strong>we may live forever</strong>.  He says that the rate of life extension is a geometric curve which is just now starting to take off.  The influence of nanotechnology and information technology on medicine and lifestyle has just started to be recognized.  As an example he referred to 4 different drugs which are currently in testing which will &#8220;fix&#8221; the &#8220;fat gene&#8221; (insulin response) and allow our overfed population to avoid obesity.</p>
<p>Ray has been remarkably reliable with his predictions in the past, so I don&#8217;t want to dismiss this one as fairy dust&#8230;</p>
<p>However I still think change will always need to come from within, no magic pill will &#8220;fix&#8221; our lives or our health for us.  It is up to us to keep up the quality of our lives through study and self refinement.  I believe that there is still a lot to be learned about the mysteries of the mind and the workings of Qi for instance, I&#8217;m hoping that the next 20 years will lead to a revolution in the understanding of both.</p>
<p>For more details about Kurzweil&#8217;s speech, check out the report on <a href="http://www.ohgizmo.com/2008/02/22/gdc08-keynote-ray-kurzweil-on-our-technological-future-immortality-by-2023/">ohgizmo.com </a></p>
<p>I was thrilled to be in the audience of Ray&#8217;s Keynote.  It sure gave me an up-beat mood for the rest of the week!</p>
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		<title>The Serene Toastmaster.</title>
		<link>http://www.gameofself.com/blog/2008/02/15/the-serene-toastmaster/</link>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 15 Feb 2008 08:20:24 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[(ThisÂ was originally a speech I gave at toastmasters)Â Â  A book I greatly admire; the Tao-te-ching states 30 spokes share the wheel&#8217;s hub, but it is the center hole that makes it useful Shape clay into a vessel; It is the space within that makes it useful Cut the doors and windows for a room; It [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><font face="Times New Roman"><em>(ThisÂ was originally a speech I gave at toastmasters)</em>Â </font>Â <br />
A book I greatly admire; the Tao-te-ching states</p>
<blockquote><address style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman">30 spokes share the wheel&#8217;s hub,</font></address>
<address style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman">but it is the center hole that makes it useful</font></address>
<address style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"></address>
<address style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman">Shape clay into a vessel;</font></address>
<address style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman">It is the space within that makes it useful</font></address>
<address style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"></address>
<address style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman">Cut the doors and windows for a room;</font></address>
<address style="margin: 0in 0in 0pt" class="MsoNormal"><font face="Times New Roman">It is the holes which make it useful.</font></address>
</blockquote>
<p>Emptyness leads to an untroubled mind, and an untroubled mind leads to serenity.</p>
<p>A serene speaker is a good speaker.</p>
<p>In this speech I will discuss the basis of serenity, and give you a little guided meditation to help improve your serenity before your next speech.
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Many people have the impression that being a toastmaster is all about talking, talking and more talking.Â  But without appropriate emptiness, focus, authenticity, and relaxation any speech will fall flat.
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Keep your mind empty, and refuse to fill it with expectations or worries. If you are not in tune to your audience, you will be unable to gain the critical &#8216;rapport&#8217; which attracts them to you.Â If you are empty of worry, you can remain focused, you can avoid distraction, you will be wholly present in the here and now.The pauses you use will be appropriate and dramatic.
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You need to empty your mind of everything but your speech.Â  This is called focus.Â Â  </p>
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<li>Being prepared will improve your focus.Â  Nothing calms the mind like having practiced your presentation enough!Â </li>
<li>Being relaxed will also improve your focus.Â  If you are relaxed, you can be in the moment, observing your audience, and sensing your effect upon them. You will be able to go with the flow when an unexpected event happens.Â </li>
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<p>Some people believe that they can&#8217;t be themselves while speaking.Â  They think they need to hide behind a special &#8216;presentation&#8217; personality, an <strong>â€œevil twinâ€</strong> where they grit their teeth and painfully force themselves speak.  These speakers are not authentic.Â 
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Donâ€™t try to be anyone other than yourself.Â Â When you speak as your true self, your feelings are automatically communicated in your vocal variety, word emphasis, and choice of phrases.
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Speeches improve when they are about emotional topics, and show the speaker â€œopening upâ€.Â  Just before your presentation, you can mentally prepare yourself with a little relaxation exercise.
<p>
I have prepared a short guided meditation which can assist you in doing this before your next speech.<br clear="all" />
<p>
<em>Please follow me in this exercise:</em>
<p>
Take a deep breath&#8230;Â Now let it out nice and slow&#8230;
<p>
Take another breath, and as you breath out slowly, let go of all your concerns <strong>now</strong>.
<p>
Just empty your mind and relax&#8230;You may want to close your eyes, because you want to get truly relaxed&#8230;You have nothing to do now but to relax&#8230;Â </p>
<p>Think of a time in your life when you were very calm and focused. Perhaps there was a time when everything went just right&#8230;<br />
Re-live this calm and focused time now, in your imagination&#8230;</p>
<blockquote><address>What do you see? â€¦</address>
<address>What can you smell? â€¦</address>
<address>How do you feel? â€¦</address>
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<p>Can you make what you see brighter and larger? Double the size, if it makes you feel betterâ€¦Play some calming music in your mind, notice how much better you feelâ€¦You are becoming more and more&#8230; Calm and focused and happy&#8230;As you get comfortable with this feeling, say to yourself the word &#8220;<strong>Serenity</strong>&#8220;, now&#8230;Now clear your mind, think of the color whiteâ€¦The color white could be an interesting color.</p>
<p>Bring back the memory of when you were calm and focused&#8230;</p>
<blockquote><address>What do you see? â€¦</address>
<address>What can you smell? â€¦</address>
<address>How do you feel? â€¦</address>
</blockquote>
<p>Can you make what you see brighter?  Make your feelings stronger, make your memory brighter and larger&#8230;</p>
<p>Double the feelings you are having&#8230; Notice how much better you feel&#8230;Now say to yourself the word &#8220;<strong>Serenity</strong>&#8220;&#8230;
<p>
You may open your eyes, and return to the presentâ€¦
<p>
So here is how you use this.Â  Just before you give your next speech, Close your eyes for a moment, take a couple of deep breaths&#8230;let your breath outÂ slowly, then say to yourself, &#8220;<strong>Serenity</strong>&#8220;.Â  This will help you recall the Calm and focused state you just practiced.
<p>Once you have found the emptiness within you, you will be ready to give the best speech of your life!</p>
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		<title>The Art of Learning</title>
		<link>http://www.gameofself.com/blog/2008/02/11/the-art-of-learning/</link>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 11 Feb 2008 17:56:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>dragon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[It was serendipitous to find the The Art of Learning by Josh Waitzkin in a library recently. This guy is phenomenal, first he was a childhood national chess champion, and then he learned tai-chi well enough to win the world title (twice) in international push hands tournaments. I found this book to be very inspirational. [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It was serendipitous to find the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&amp;location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FArt-Learning-Journey-Pursuit-Excellence%2Fdp%2F0743277457%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1202758410%26sr%3D8-1&amp;tag=thgaofse-20&amp;linkCode=ur2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325">The Art of Learning</a><img style="BORDER-RIGHT: medium none; BORDER-TOP: medium none; MARGIN: 0px; BORDER-LEFT: medium none; BORDER-BOTTOM: medium none" height="1" alt="" src="http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=thgaofse-20&amp;l=ur2&amp;o=1" width="1" border="0" /> by Josh Waitzkin in a library recently.</p>
<p>This guy is phenomenal, first he was a childhood national chess champion, and then he learned tai-chi well enough to win the world title (twice) in international push hands tournaments.</p>
<p>I found this book to be very inspirational. It rang a bell with both my NLP (how do I learn?) and Taoist (how do I get good at Push Hands?) interests.
<p>If you&#8217;d like a preview, check out this youtube video.</p>
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		<title>Breakthrough to Success</title>
		<link>http://www.gameofself.com/blog/2008/02/06/breakthrough-to-success/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 06 Feb 2008 18:08:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>dragon</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Last weekend I spent 3 days getting brainwashed by one of the best NLP trainers out there. Christopher Howard gives free &#8220;Breakthrough to Success&#8221; Trainings, and I was fortunate to attend and see him work his magic. Christopher Howard has learned the &#8220;true tradition&#8221; of NLP, and has kept it fresh with a lot of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Last weekend I spent 3 days getting brainwashed by one of the best NLP trainers out there.</p>
<p>Christopher Howard gives free <a href="http://www.chrishoward.com/Public/Affiliates/index.cfm?af=400705">&#8220;Breakthrough to Success&#8221; </a>Trainings, and I was fortunate to attend and see him work his magic.</p>
<p>Christopher Howard has learned the &#8220;true tradition&#8221; of NLP, and has kept it fresh with a lot of the recent innovations in the field. His reputation was why I chose to go, and as I expected, there was a bit of upselling going on. But it was well worth it, because the training I got was very powerful and <strong>Life changing!</strong></p>
<p>I had some mental roadblocks removed, and I now feel like I am going full throttle down the highway of life, watching sparks fly off the guardrail as I adjust my course!</p>
<p>Highly recommended, sign up for your own <a href="http://www.chrishoward.com/Public/Affiliates/index.cfm?af=400705">&#8220;Breakthrough to Success&#8221;</a> if you get a chance!</p>
<p><em>(Author Note:  Chris Howard has quit giving the Breakthrough to Success weekends in the United States, and although I really found the session valuable,  I later discovered that his affiliate support was disorganized and disappointing. )</em></p>
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